Strange relationships!!

What is it that get two people together? And what is 'IT' that takes these two people one step further to matrimony?

First query has many answers..which is quite relative and varies from person to person. It can be anything from infatuation to lust, friendship to fooling around,some waves meet, some talks click, strangers become best friends, few move ahead into undefined relations hovering between friendship and commitment. All this is fine as long as the thin line is not crossed..the undefined territories..

With the onset of undefined terms in a relationship comes the undefined expectations..one gets so tangled in it, neither can they break free nor are they sure if they want to break free. One finds all love, happiness, solace, company in the other but is still not sure of moving ahead.. They remain in this no mans land for ever..

There are some others who are aware of what they want in life. They have decided on their choices and are not afraid to go ahead and tell the world about it. They fight the world as long as their loved on is standing hand in hand beside them.

Its not that there is no intersection samples between the non commitment ones and the pro commitment ones..ofcourse there is. The question is what is the one changing factor which makes the anti commitment species pro commitment.

Is it because they found that special spark in this partner which they dint find in the undefined domain partner?

Is it that there were no choices left. Had to go for it as it was the last and best choice available?

Is it because external factors forced one into it?

Are there other reasons?

I know of people who question themselves everyday on what went wrong and a few lucky ones who thank God on something which went right!! While together, there's still miles of distance to be covered between two people in the same room. I know of people who have married the one they love finding themselves stuck with unapproachable partners..I also know of those souls who communicate without speaking a word..

Life throws upon you so many surprises, love being the most surprising one of all.. Am in love and am happy to be so..as long as I am happy..I will continue to remain in love!!

My adventures @ Chennai !!

Driving in Chennai is an experience in itself. Till a few month back, 2 hours of my day was spent experiencing this experience. And every day, I think of writing on this subject cos I find it my responsibility to let the newbie know what to expect when they come here. I don’t want them misunderstanding the traditional, generally very cultured crowd which populates this pretty city.
For unsuspecting co travelers, below are some insights to the normal behavior traits seen on Chennai roads.
1. Do not be surprised if you find many personality copies of “Talaivur” on these roads. Its normal..!! People here are very serious about their hero worship and tend to try and follow almost all stunts on the roads. As in movies, these followers don’t expect to get hurt and they don’t expect others to expect getting hurt by these stunts
2. Don’t be worried if you see near misses on the roads. Its just another way to test ones skills and others’ heart health status. People who find their hearts palpitating randomly are advised to get themselves checked at the nearest Apollo hospital.
3. You have been trying hard to control that wild streak of anger but in vain??? Bingo…just drive here and you will see yourself having a crash course on Anger Management. All the times you stop yourself from screaming your head off at the co travelers’ so called irresponsible driving, you take yourself one step further to that inner calm state.
4. You want to test your driving skills??Want to know how you cope in pressure situations? Well, all you need to do is drive between 9-10 Am and 6-8 PM on any main road of Chennai. You will know all about your skills by the end of this experience.
I have been driving since the age of 15, have driven in different cities, towns with cosmopolitan crowds to rural crowd but the experience I have here in this city is so different from all the other cases. I face fear, thrill, uncontrollable anger, inner calm, unsuspecting courteousness, unbearable heat( and sweat), cool soothing breeze, irritating drivers and a feel of gratitude towards GOD (when I reach my destination) on a daily basis be it a 30 km drive to my city office or a 10 mins drive to the nearby grocery store. Don’t know how long I will continue with this experience…as long as I get back home every evening to tell the tale…it’s all fine..:)

Lunches..

After moving to my new office location and in the process, missing out my dear friends’ company at every other occasion across the time of my office hours, I have gotten into a habit of doing things alone…like having lunch alone, having tea breaks alone or altogether skipping it, even going to the wash room alone..;)

This whole process has given me a lot of time alone, with self, for contemplation. Contemplation on anything and everything happening around me, in front of me, in other cities, in my dear ones’ lives, in my own life…I happen to have an opinion on everything happening around me..just that I never put it forth…

I am just back from one such “in company of self” lunches. ..a perfect time to listen to the world around you…all the other “IT employed, day in and day out running around office” souls..And it just so happens that all I get to hear around me is Cricket…Now Cricket, like all the other subjects in India, has every one making and sharing their own opinions. Ranging from avid fans to disinterested souls like me, we all have an opinion on the right shot, the perfect player or the game and the way it was played.

I happen to sit at a crowded table (full of gals, as per my choice) and get to hear these “fans” discuss, of all things, why Sehwag was not playing and why he should be playing the next game. Every gal at that table had an opinion. I almost thought it would be my turn soon and was furiously thinking of a seemingly sensible statement to make. The men behind my table were almost as excited about the upcoming game as women are when they shop at a sale. Some mixed crowd were having discussions on “Doosra” while some flirting couples were flirting on their choice of best cricketers (of all topics !!)…

In all these talks, I guess I was having the best of times taking snippets from here and there and store them away for repackaging and showing off in front of my friends on right occasions…

Well, this got me thinking… aren’t we all doing the same thing…Some genuine conversationalists take pains to gather knowledge from books, internet, mentors, News channels etc to make up their own opinion while others like me, just conveniently pick stuff from them and place them in front of others in a designer wear. And this cycle just goes on...Well, as long as I get my snippets, I m a happy person…

Writing qualms..!!

Writing ones thoughts down according to me is one of the toughest jobs. There are multiple reasons..

1. Writing needs one’s thoughts to be very structured.

2. Writing makes one commit to one’s thoughts without the comfort of changing minds.

3. Writings makes one stand up and acknowledge one’s thought as their own rather than passing it off as someone else’s brain wave in case things go wrong.

Now that I have jotted down atleast three points as to why writing is difficult, it also gives me a new perspective of my own self. Have I been shying away from writing because of these above points. Was it because of an internal need to have the acknowledgement of the world in general to my writing sense? Well, most probably, the answer is yes, cos I have always been a person trying to fit myself in line with the world in general. Though at one end, I have also been proud of being a rebel with my loved ones.

But shouldn’t this equation be the other way round? Rebel to the world and a saint with loved ones..? Surely, that’s exactly what the world wants now, aint it? All rebels grow, get what they want in life and move ahead while saints stay back where they started...But why am I not able to do so, I wonder…Again, that certainly has a lot to do with one’s comfort zone and I, for one, never like moving out of my comfort zone.

Well, right here, I seem to have convinced myself after a lot of deliberation and a call from the inside to not waste away all my time in dreams that I have taken my first baby step towards moving out of my comfort zone. I have decided to write more often with no qualms what so ever about the world and their skewed opinions…

After all, m also a part of the same world with my own set of skewness , right!! ;)...well, God bless and keep my new found interest rolling..;)

Life n Death

"I thought I was learning to live; I was only learning to die."-- extract from the dairy of Leonardo da Vinci

Liked the statement a lot...Made sense when i first read it....guess thats wat i have been learning for some time now...

Had had a strange week or two....lost two of my close acquaintances...two ppl who were known to be good to all..were sweet at heart and strong in their will...ppl who had their dreams and goals clear in their eyes and were all set to achieve it but for the interference of fate.

An equally shocking aspect, if not more, of my last week or two was what i had to face on a personal front.

Read somewhr that the most important aspect of good humor is the timing. When i had to face these news , I couldnt help but dwell on the aspect of fate and its excellent sense of humor.

Trying hard to cope. Cope with the humor of fate...or wat ever its called....

:)

Friends are precious....Many come n go but few stay for life....n beyond....n such friends come by destiny...n I truly believe in destiny....

Some things stand out in friendship....trust being the biggest of em all....today i got a glimpse of the effect one has on the thought of breaking the trust of his or her best friend.....even if that is just a mere thought of discussing about that friend to someone else.

Such friends are rare...God has stopped making souls like em....Lucky are those who have such friends....I m lucky to have such angels around me...I wish I am the same to some one too....

New born...

Dunno what I am here to do....so late in the night...staring up into my laptop screen...all set to jot down something...but what???thats exactly what I have been contemplating on since some time now...

Not that I have nothing to write..nor is it that I am not able to put my thoughts to words( though I agree that is some task..)..its just that at this precise moment, there are many things that are racing across my mind at lightning speed...ample choice...making the choice is the problem..:)

Now when it comes to choice, its a very interesting topic in itself...."Choice" a word which makes every person's world...they say its what and how you choose to act at that precise deciding moment that makes or breaks you. But is having so many choices in one's life a good thing....and what about those souls who are left with no choice but to take what is left behind for them n continue to make their lives??

Life would decide...